A lot of my friends have confessed they've felt the same way, especially when they're forced to find out through social media.
Discomfort with an ex publicly pairing up again is also acknowledged in pop culture; after Marnie breaks up with Charlie on , she obsesses over the other woman she sees in his Facebook photos."Most people don't want to feel expendable, rejected, or out of control," sex and relationships therapist Cathy Beaton tells Bustle.
Your ex moving on is not a testament to your he's into, am I like that? People don't choose people based on checklists; each person will appeal to someone for a different reason. Your ex's new significant other is not your replacement.
He says he likes to read other people’s profile summaries for entertainment purposes while taking a crap on the toilet. I don’t buy it for a second, but in the spirit of trusting him, I went along with it anyway despite my own common sense. Why mess it up with my own emotional hangups and insecurities?
If any other girl came to me with the same dilemma, I’d tell her the exact same thing dating expert Evan Marc Katz would say.
He’s not that into you if he’s still looking at other women online. Katz makes a great point in one of his blog posts about this very dating dilemma online. There is simply no viable, reasonable, acceptable response he can make – even if, somehow, he has not met ANY new women since “committing” to you,” argues Katz.
It’s not that he doesn’t want to keep spending time with you, it just means that he wants to keep his options open until someone he’s more into comes along. A man doesn’t use online dating for anything other than it’s intended purpose – to meet new women. The dating expert goes on to say that while there is constant temptation to always be trading up, “the whole point of dating – for most of us, anyway – is to find one person that makes you want to quit altogether.” I honestly thought I had found that person, especially when he finally agreed to delete his online dating profile. 10 minutes of weekly entertainment isn’t worth losing endless hours of entertainment from you,” he said.